积极心理品质培养，我们在行动【家长篇】 Psychological Quality Training

      亲爱的家长，您好！迎着朝阳，伴着月光，行色匆匆地奔波忙碌，只为生活更加美好，家庭更加幸福，可能还承担着不被理解的压力与辛酸，您辛苦了！

      Dear parents, hello! Facing the morning sun,accompanied by moonlight, rushing around in a hurry, just for a better life anda happier family, and may also bear the pressure and hardships that are notunderstood. You have worked hard!

      在每天辛苦的工作后，回到家中，面对成长期的孩子，可能会让您觉得抓耳挠腮。就算如此，您依然深爱着您的宝贝，像我们一样，而这份爱也是最具治愈的力量，让我们将这股力量更好地利用起来，帮助孩子健康、快乐地成长吧！

      After hard work every day, when you comehome, facing the growing-up children, you may feel scratching your ears. Evenso, you still love your baby, just like us, and this love is also the mosthealing power. Let us make better use of this power to help children grow uphealthily and happily! 

      每个人在成长的过程中，都有一个“劲敌”，那就是别人家的孩子。小时候我们恨得牙痒痒，长大后却总是又这样给孩子“拉仇恨”。不要和别人作比较，不要拿自己的孩子跟别人家的孩子作比较，这一点是我们最清楚也最难做到的。家长攀比式教育孩子，会让孩子有两种心理反应：

      In the process of growing up, everyone has a"strong enemy", that is, the children of other people's families.When we were young, we itched our teeth with hatred, but when we grew up, wealways "raised hatred" for our children. Don't compare with others,don't compare your own children with the children of other people's families,this is the most clear and difficult for us to achieve.Parental education of childrenby comparison will make children have two kinds of psychological reactions:

      孩子在做事或学习的时候想着不被父母责骂，失去了本身体验的乐趣，如果做不好又被批评比较可能会造成自卑，怯懦心理。

      When children arethinking about not being scolded by their parents when doing things orstudying, they lose the fun of their own experience. If they do not do well andare criticized, they are more likely to cause inferiority and cowardice.

      所以，你的孩子只需要跟昨天的他/她进行比较，培养一名自信向上的孩子或许更值得。

      Therefore, your child only needs to comparewith yesterday's him/her. It may be more worthwhile to develop a self-confidentchild. 

      （2）允许孩子哭泣（Allow them to cry）

      哭泣是见证成长的一种形式，哭泣也是宣泄情感情绪成本最低的一项手段。允许孩子哭泣，陪伴孩子消化情绪。只有心情轻松了才能更好地直面挫折，迎接挑战。

      Crying is a form of witnessing growth, andcrying is also the lowest cost means of expressing emotions. Allow the child tocry and accompany the child to digest emotions. Only when you feel relaxed canyou better face setbacks and meet challenges.

      （3）善用表扬（Make good use of praise）个体心理学的创始人阿德勒指出：人类天生“有对优越感的追求”。孩子做成一件事，渴望得到大人的表扬。适当的表扬会增加类似事情出现的频率，但不当的表扬也可能降低孩子做事的兴趣。他们做事的出发点可能会从兴趣向获取认可转化，这并不利于孩子的终身发展。所以我们要注意在表扬时描述具体的事情细节，而不是“你真棒”；在不足中找到孩子的闪光点加以肯定，学会用缺点带动优点养成。

      Adler, the founder of individual psychology, pointed out that: human beings are born with "the pursuit of superiority." The child has done something and is eager to be praised bythe adult. Appropriate praise will increase the frequency of similar things,but improper praise may also reduce children's interest in doing things. Their starting point for doing things may change from interest to recognition, whichis not conducive to the child's lifelong development. There fore, we must pay attentionto describing the specific details when we praise, rather than "you areawesome"; find the children's shining points in the shortcomings to beaffirmed, and learn to use shortcomings to drive strengths.

      爱的鼓励：爱是相互的，陪伴孩子的同时，也在治愈我们自己！

      Encouragement of love: love is mutual, while accompanying the children, it is also healing ourselves!